I totally agree with Mike.

I'll add that I've been in many a band in my younger days, and I'm trying to imagine the effect these threads would have on any one of them. I have to say it's like watching a power struggle happening in public...I have to wonder if this is more destructive than helpful. A band is like a 4-way marriage (or more), and mutual trust and communication is essential. Isn't this whole thread sort of like "going rogue"?

Maybe the conflicts would be better resolved as a group...

Sorry, just my honest opinion.