Well taking sides is something one should always be careful of doing as, "if its not your argument," why become involved too deeply into something unless its of dire importance to yourself or your own welfare. Most arguments are not black and white, that's why "debate" was invented. I could give advice to you both, but it really isn't my place to do so as I have learned in life to mind my own biz. I suppose as a moderator - if words become threatening or too lewd, yes then I would taddle-tale to Brian and bring it to his attention. Having said that, I'm not willing to begin policing the forum......where would you draw a line in the sand........this is America after all. But I will say this: My Dad taught me to always think twice before you speak ill of anyone/anything if its not appropriate, productive, or constructive--nothing to be gained from that. But he also taught me to defend my honor, dignity, family, & country.

Being "sensitive" is a natural emotion, learning to thicken your skin and become less retaliatory is maturity. You are a bright individual and very good at constructing argumentative debate and critiquing when you choose--maybe just keep it more vanilla as people ARE sensitive creatures. Once two people attack each other, yes someone may have been the instigator or antagonist--but it can still lead to both parties creating a vicious circle of going nowhere. You have the right according to the JPF rules to be anonymous, and for all I know, you have your own good reasons--I do think being anonymous makes it more difficult for people to trust you however. I've wondered perhaps if you are an anonymous famous music artist that just hangs around here for fun and enjoys some verbal bantering? I really don't think that. But maybe extend and olive branch to your opponents whom you match wits with? I'm not giving you advice, rather suggestions......You are your own man, but making friends is easier and more rewarding.........and if you cannot find a congenial relationship with someone---move on and don't waste your energy on obstinate circumstances.

eddie