Originally Posted by Brian Austin Whitney
Hi Folks,

First:

Colm, my comments had zero to do with any of your post so no need to be paranoid about it applying to you. The person who sparked my comments is oblivious to it all.

Tams, I did read your comments and I am glad you found some of the support you needed here. I appreciate you commenting on it.

Joice (and at least 1 other person): I am totally shocked and saddened that you feel it's the fault of the abused rather than the abuser in your own life or that you'd view anyone else with that terrible viewpoint. As someone who grew up around non stop abusive situations all around me as well as spending a lot of time doing social work trying to help abuse victims I can assure you it is NOT the fault of the abused. Sure, some people are strong enough to rise above it on their own, in fact most people are, but those doing the abuse do not EVER get a pass for what they've done outside of whatever forgiveness the victim might want to offer.

It's great to encourage people to try and overcome, but it's certainly no reflection on them if they can't do it at all, or if they can't do it alone.

These responses were to posts I think from page 1. Sorry to be so serious but sometimes people toss comments around without seeing past their own perspective. It's wonderful for those who can overcome abuse or bullying. Don't assume everyone else can respond in kind, especially on their own.

Brian



Hi Brian

I would encourage anyone to move beyond their abuse -- stop being a victim ! -- sorry that we disagree - but we Do.

AND - I NEVER SAID THE ABUSE WAS THEIR FAULT ___ those are your words.


: ) jm


here's what I DID SAY

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The challenges in life are meant to teach us how to live and having nay-sayers gives you an Opportunity - to figure out what you Really have passion for and beat the odds... to do it

I was a child singer and victim of All that Brian mentions --- HOWEVER -- I view it as something that I ALlowed to happen --- I take responsibility for my choices and weaknesses --- and NOW am working hard to make up time and skills.........

ANYONE -- CAN -- BENEFIT -- FROM -- LEARNING -- TO PLAY -- MUSIC

EVERYONE ---CAN --- LEARN ---TO --SING --BETTER

There are great rewards in the Act of doing it - even IF only for yourself

and saying anything but encouragement to JUST DO IT --- is an excuse or side step....... but either way there are lessons........

and YES -- you get to choose to listen to the Bullying or Not

jm

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