Dear Tricia,
Yes, I have heard stories like this one before. It is such a shame when a child has to suffer as a result of a divorce or because of a parent's inability to confront responsibility.

If I might suggest something...perhaps you can get Haley to write a very loving and supportive letter to her Dad. I know that sounds strange, but stay with me here.

You see, it sounds like her Dad is asserting his "rightness" by not contributing to his daughter now that she is an "adult." So, if she actually "makes him right' in a nice letter by stating that she appreciates all that he has done and that she understands he has his own life and that she does not want to be a burden to him, why....he just might want to be "right" by helping her out some more with graduation!

He won't help her if it is not on his own determinism. So, try to make him "right" and see if he comes around. It's worth a shot!

Bless you for helping Haley. She is so very lucky to have you!

Auntie Rant

"And, in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make." Paul McCartney