Dear Michelle,
Holy crap! You've got soooooo many issues going on that I'd like to discuss them with you one at a time.

First, there's your own ill health. Having been through major health problems myself, I feel I can say from experience that when you are ill it is too difficult to handle things around you.

So, if it were me, I'd first of all be grateful that your husband is out of your immediate life because it is obvious from your post that he is not a good person. The emotional bullsh_t that he is placing on you and your kids is proof of that!

For me, I have learned that my health problems were in direct ratio to the amount of negative energy I had pressing upon me. So, when I handled that energy, my health improved.

With that in mind, I might suggest that you get a friend to take photographs of the bar and of your husband in the bar in numerous photos to show that he is not a dishwasher. Get photos of the mini-mansion and the cars. Get photos of them at the airport if possible to show they are on vacation. This in itself, would put you a bit more causative over the situation because you could then show the "burden of proof."

Do you have a friend who won't mind playing "detective" with a camera?

Once you are able to handle the child support claim in court, the rest will be a bit easier to address.

The only other thing I'd like to caution you about is the daughter who tried to commit suicide on the antidepressants. Please go to www.cchr.org and read all about the subject from a group called "Citizen's Commission on Human Rights." They are now the leading watchdog authority on the subject of psychiatric treatment and drugs according to major television and magazine sources who go to them for the information and statistics.

Sweetie, there is always a solution. In your case, you just need to take some baby steps. Get a little bit of control over the situation some how. Grab that and then get a little more control. You can do it. God doesn't give us our trials unless we can handle them.

Blessings,
Auntie Rant

"And, in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make." Paul McCartney